How I can improve my life by eliminating one simple word?
“I should put up those curtains. I should go to yoga, I should do a blog post, I should call my grandma…”
In my world, those thoughts are constantly going through my mind. I think/say should A LOT! And yes, my intentions are great, but how much do I have to think and say “I should do (fill in the blank)” before I ACTUALLY do it?!
In my case, I probably think it dozens of times, and say it at least a few times before it gets done. And when I’ve been saying it frequently for a while, I upgrade the statement to “I really should…” making the urgency greater, trying to trick myself into doing it because I’m sick of thinking it and saying it.
So now I’m doing a little experiment… I am eliminating SHOULD from my vocabulary. I can’t guarantee that I won’t still think of things that I should do, but hopefully before it get’s to the point of saying the sentence out loud I will just do said thing.
I’ve been toying with the idea for a while once I realized how much I hide behind this word. It’s an extremely convenient word to use to delay action in your life – big or small. Now instead of saying it, I will DO it!
The past month or so I’ve been trying to cut down the use, and I have already noticed improvements in my life. Here are a few things I’ve noticed:
- I get more done.
- My to do lists are getting a little shorter and a lot more manageable.
- I feel more satisfaction in general because there’s nothing worse than talking about what you’re going to do if you don’t do it.
What I will try to say instead:
“I am going to ________ tonight/this weekend” or “I will ________”. It also helps to add a deadline to the action.
By changing my vocabulary it also creates accountability for those things I say i’m going to do (especially if you say it in front of someone). So now the chance that I am actually going to do something is much greater.
If you find you say should a lot, I challenge you to make this tiny but life changing adjustment in your talk and actions.
should wish you good luck !